This sounds a lot easier than it actually is!(#3)

January 29, 2009

This is a follow up post to this post and this post…I had no idea this would end up being a series!  It centers around Ephesian 4:15 and the issue of speaking truth in love.

As we’ve already noted, speaking truth in love is not easy. Most people can’t or won’t do it.  Many people speak truth but forget the love.

Here’s another common pitfall:

Speaking truth in love does not mean sharing with a friend the issues you have with someone when you haven’t confronted the individual you need to…even when it’s cleverly disguised as a prayer request!

That’s NOT speaking truth.

It’s COWARDICE.

That’s NOT confronting in love.

It’s GOSSIP.

Don’t give in to that temptation.  If you’re the one telling the tale – CUT IT OUT!  If you’re the one listening to someone else – confront them. Tell them not to talk to you about a person when they won’t talk to the person they have the issue with.  They might get hurt…maybe even mad.  That’s OK!

Refuse to give an audience to that kind of trash.

No good will come from it.


This sounds a lot easier than it actually is!(#2)

January 28, 2009

Follow up to this post and Ephesian 4:15 about speaking the truth in love.

This is one of the hardest things to do, but here is something interesting about it. There are a lot of people who can speak truth with no problem. The doing it IN LOVE part…not so much!

It’s one thing to tell me I’m ugly.  We would know you are a liar and the truth is not in you!  Just kidding!

Seriously, let’s say I have an attitude that needs to be confronted.  Or perhaps someone has a certain behavior that may compromise their testimony.  It’s one thing to attack me and tell me my attitude sucks – or to assault the other person with a 10 lb. Bible and raining down a thousand verses of scripture on their heads.

That’s a whole lot different than approaching the individual from a heart of love (as opposed to self-righteousness) and humility (rather than pride, which got the devil kicked out of Heaven) hoping the best for the individual you are confronting.  People attack others and use the pitiful excuse of “speaking truth” when the truth is they do it because it makes them feel superior. That’s just wrong.

The “spiritual” formula is simple:

(TRUTH) – (LOVE) = SPIRITUAL PRIDE & LEGALISM

(TRUTH) + (LOVE) = SPIRITUAL MATURITY & GROWTH

How are you speaking truth?


This sounds a lot easier than it actually is!

January 27, 2009

I am asked often by those not in ministry what the most difficult task is as a pastor. My answer as a pastor is the same answer I give as a believer. Without question, the most difficult thing for many believers is: speaking the truth in love.

“Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is, Christ.”

- Ephesians 4:15

It’s easier to be silent.

You fear the other person’s reaction.  Will this hurt our relationship?  Will we still be friends?

You fear rejection.  What if they point out all my imperfections?

You fear change.  It’s easier to maintain the status quo.

…so a lot of us remain stuck…as spiritual infants in a world that desperately needs believers to put their “big girl” and “big boy” pants on!

What will you do? Will you speak difficult truth into a situation motivated from a heart of love?  Or will you be silent?  I’m betting some of you are truth speakers!


‘Revival’…err ‘renewal’…umm I mean ‘gathering’

January 19, 2009

circus-or-revival-tent1It’s interesting how the church has chosen to avoid certain words in an effort to relate better to culture. Revival is one of those words.  Many churches are now holding their typical “revival” services under a different name, as if that churchy sounding word has been driving people away!  Why would that be?

I am from the south.  Revivals hold a specific meaning for those of us who are from the south. It’s like other southern peculiarities like fatback counting as a meat and macaroni and cheese being a vegetable!  Every church I knew growing up would have a scheduled revival each year (usually in the Fall).  I’m talking about 7 nights a week and twice on Sunday!

YES – you better be there for all of the services!

YES - you better “pack your pew” (bring as many visitors as you can)!

…Here’s the problem: Revivals became little more than a pep rally that served a similar purpose as confession for the Catholic.

In other words, revival became the planned time (this was a scheduled event) each year when the church people, who acted like anything but, would say “I’m sorry God for living every day of my life like it’s all about me“, then sing some stirring versions of some of the “old and faithful” songs, all the while hoping to see how many new people they could get to join their church

…But sadly the routine of revival produced very few lives that were permanently changed.  The lasting effects had about as much staying power as a pack of cheese crackers for lunch.

That’s because the routine of revival can’t produce life changeonly the Reviver can do that!

Chuck taught recently in our Downpour series at Washington Avenue Church that “revive” comes from two words: vive (to live) and re (again). Revival happens when God breathes life into the spiritually dead corners of our heart!  It’s deeper than emotion.  It’s longer lasting than excitementTrue revival is EVIDENT when it falls on an individual because God is the author of it!

Sadly, the world has seen far too many of the “planned revivals” and frankly…they ain’t buying it anymore!  Perhaps, if The Church of today experiences an actual revival, we would focus less on semantics and more on being the salt and light that God has called us to be.

Regardless of what you call it, people far from God are seeking authenticity from those around them who claim to be followers of Christ.


Heaven through a child’s eyes

January 14, 2009

gracie-soccer-026My Nana passed away about a week ago after 89 amazing years on this planet.  Her faith was bold and we are at peace knowing that she is in Heaven even as I type this.

Tabitha and I sat the kids down to talk with them together.  They were very close with Nana since she had lived with my Mom and Dad for the past year.  We had been subtly trying to prepare the kids for her death…especially our youngest Gracie, who is 6 years old.

As I began to share that Nana was with Jesus now and that she had a new body that didn’t hurt anymore, Gracie had a remarkable reaction – she began to get excited!!! She started asking questions like “Does that mean her skin is new like mine?” and “Can she eat anything she wants to now?

She was visualizing Heaven as we talked!  Her eyes grew wide and she was experiencing genuine joy for her Nana!  Gracie was almost envious when I explained that her Nana was able to sit and talk with Jesus face to face.  She said, “So she doesn’t have to pray? She can just talk to him like me and you?“  That led to another good discussion…but that’s a different post.

We should see more things through the eyes of a child.

So anyone who becomes as humble as this little child is the greatest in the Kingdom of Heaven.“  – Matthew 18:4